Ep. 8 - The intention under the intention was my comfort

This week we’re reaching back to an episode we recorded a few weeks ago, one where we share some of our own stories where we missed the mark when. As we know, as white-bodied folks it’s so easy to think we “get it” and not realize just how much we don’t.

We wanted to share these not for praise, but to help normalize some of the challenges around this work and encourage others to begin to look at the ways they have unwittingly caused some harm. How can we continue to develop the capacity to be with the shame that arises when talking about these things, without turning away from it (and we talk about the distinction between feeling shame, and being shamed)?

Want to share a story of yours? Email us! We’d love to hear from you.

Some links for things and people mentioned in today’s episode:

john a powell and Báyò Akómoláfé conversation - A wonderful conversation between these two leaders around belonging and navigating these trying times.

Othering and Belonging Institute - Housed at UC Berkeley and led by Dr. john a. powell, the O&B Institute is working towards a world that works for all of us.

Men Connecting: Understanding Whiteness - program for white-bodied men that Greg runs.

Understanding Whiteness-Connecting as Socialized Females - a program for white-bodied women and others socialized as female that Shannon runs.

Rev angel Kyodo williams - Anti-racist teacher and facilitator (as well as meditation teacher and Zen Buddhist); Shannon referenced a workshop we attended a few years ago.

Anna-Brown Griswold - Unpacking Whiteness - Seattle-based therapist and anti-racist teacher. We took this program in 2017.

Patrice Palmer TED talk - We’ve linked to this before. Patrice’s comment that “there’s a difference between you are welcome here and I had you in mind” is one that we keep coming back to.

Holistic Resistance - Our teachers and mentors in this work.

Disrupting our Whiteness - a program led by Jennie Pearl and Dylan Wilder Quinn from Holistic Resistance that we took in 2019.

Ijeoma Oluo - Amazing Black writer on anti-racism, and other important topics.

Resmaa Menakem - Black therapist and facilitator whose work on somatic inspires us a ton.

Crossroads article on the importance of caucus spaces - an article that speaks to why it’s important to have affinity spaces in anti-racism work

This episode was recorded on September 6th, 2022

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